Some people really, honestly think that we’re not in our right minds. They think we are not mature enough to make such an audacious decision, that we have no idea what this choice means for our lives and our futures, and so they choose these seemingly innocent words to let us know that we’re wrong.
Ask the same person who says this to you what compels them to make such a bold declaration and they will answer with something along these lines:
“Because you will be lonely and sad”
“Because no one will take care of you when you’re old”
I think the nicest mean thing I have been called is “selfish.”
When I tell people that I don’t want to have children, they usually look at me with disapproval before asking, “Why?” — with more disbelief than curiosity. Sometimes, if I’m really lucky, they will tell me how and why all childfree people are wrong. They won’t refer to me specifically, as in why I (Isabel) am wrong. No, instead they will generalize. It’s more polite that way.
All of the reasons we’re “wrong” boil down to one general argument: human beings have to procreate. …
An open letter to Meghan Daum regarding her article published on Aug 21st
When I first saw the title of your article in a link that was shared on social media, my first thought was, “Oh, boy. Here we go again.” I am so tired of seeing articles and blog posts written by non-childfree people who present a string of unfounded criticism based on their own lack of knowledge.
When I realized you are childfree, yourself, that piqued my interest. I hoped you might have a thought-provoking perspective coming from our side of the fence.
I am sorry…
Founder and firebrand of The Uprising Spark, host of The Honest Uproar podcast, and 1/3 of the Founding Non-Mothers of Childfree Girls.